sometimes i hate myself
and wonder why you love me.
So if you guys didn’t know, I don’t make it a secret that I hate medication. I hate taking it due to having taken it for roughly every year of seven years until I got fed up and just said “no.” I had to watch my sister take a medication that made her gain weight and she’s struggled to lose it ever since. I watched how I started getting better the moment I stopped taking medication.
Yet today I had a doctor’s appointment, and coincidentally Mother Nature said hello today. Unfortunately, my Shark Week pains include pain that goes from my lower back and travels down to my left foot, and sometimes the pain is so fierce I can’t walk and it’s as if I’m paralysed for the second time in my life.
Here’s the story about the medicinal facility redeeming itself in my eyes:
Women wear heels now so we don’t have to step in the blood of our enemies
Reblogging for that comment
Toasts with the most: 21 awesome energy-boosting breakfast ideas.
BUT WHICH IS THE TOAST WITH THE MOST???
I want companionship but I hate people
if you feel this way, you’re probably an introvert! because an introvert’s brain stays at a higher state of arousal than an extrovert, lots of socializing can cause overstimulation (which translates into feeling overwhelmed). this is why introverts do well with just a few strong relationships and need lots of alone time to recharge after being around people.
introverts make up around 30% of the population, but that number is likely much higher on Tumblr (it’s an activity that attracts introverts).
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
HEY LOOK EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT 50 SHADES SERIES IN ONE
ooo, someone actually broke down the Safe Sane Consensual thing and how 50 Shades DOESN’T EVEN TOUCH IT WITH A 10 FOOT POLE.
I got so tired of explaining why what I liked was different from this piece of shit. Thank you.
Bless this post
i have read fics written by 17 year old virgins with a better grasp on a healthy bdsm relationship then this series.
reblog and make a wish!
this was removed from tumbrl due to “violating one or more of Tumblr’s Community Guidelines”, but since my wish came true the first time, I’m putting it back. :)
OH MY FUCKING GOD, IT’S BACK ON MY DASH.
THIS SHIT WORKS OKAY, I AM DEAD SERIOUS.
The last time I saw this on my dash, I didn’t think it would happen, so jokingly I wished I could go to a fun. concert.
AND GUESS WHAT, I WENT TO A FUCKING FUN. CONCERT.
THIS SHIT WORKS, TRY IT.
I SAW THIS ON MY DASH THE OTHER DAY AND THOUGHT “ITS WORTH A TRY” SO I WISHED I COULD GET A 3DS
LITERALLY LIKE 4 DAYS LATER MY DAD SENT ME A PICTURE OF THE 3DS XL HE BOUGHT FOR ME WHILE I WAS AT SCHOOL
IM STILL FREAKING OUT ABOUT THIS
holy fuck, I didn’t expect this to work, I was like psh, whatever it’s just a quick reblog, but I wished my Dad would actually respond back to me AND HE FUCKING DID A FEW DAYS LATER, I GOT A FUCKING TEXT FROM MY DAD TODAY WHO HASN’T SPOKEN OR RESPONDED TO ME IN MONTHS HOLY FUCK WHAT IS THIS MAGIC IT WORKS.
I WANTED TO SEE MY BOYFRIEND AND I DIDN’T THINK I’D GET DAYS OFF BUT THIS WEEKEND I’M HEADING UP THERE??? THIS IS CRAZY SHIT
SO LIKE I JOKINGLY WISHED FOR MY OWN LEN KAGAMINE AND THEN LIKE A WEEK LATER I GOT A LEN NENDOROID??? H ELP
WTF OKAY SO THIS SHOT ACTUALLY WORKS BECAUSE WHEN I WISHED, I HAD WISHED MY CRUSH WOULD LIKE ME BACK AND GUESS WHAT? I HAVE A BOYFRIEND NOW. WHAT THE HELLLLL?????
ok I’ve said this before but IM DOING IT AGAIN THE FIRST TIME I SAW THIS, MY WISH DID COME TRUE SO I REBLOGED AGAIN AND SAID IT IN THE TAGS BUT THEN I WISHED FOR SMTH ELSE AND IT LITERALLY LITERALLY HAPPENED LIKE A COUPLE DAYS LATER WHAT THE HELL SO NOW IM WRITING THIS HERE FOR YOU BC I DONT BELIEVE IN THIS CRAP BUT STILL IT’S AN AWFULLY BIG COINCIDENCE
So last time I reblogged this I met Tom Hiddleston within the month…
I saw this twice before and I didn’t really believe it but I wished for the same thing both times and now seeing it again I realise that I got my wish… The guy I like likes me back
HE JUST NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO MOVE OUT AND WORK LESS AND COMMIT TO ME. JESUS CHRIST I THINK I LOVE HIM.
Make a wish… Hope this shit works…
Is that a starship hitting warp?
The 14-year-old’s panicked claims of innocence were followed by thousands last night
Apparently ppl think the police are being UNFAIR to this POOR LITTLE PRECIOUS CHILD :’CCCCC as evidenced boy the poll further down. It’d be super neat if you peeps on Tumblr could let your voices be heard. Plenty of brown folks sitting in jail just because they LOOK suspicious and this dumb bitch tries to get of scott free after she got caught. Not to mention all the copycats that have been spawned directly following this. SEND HER PUNK ASS TO JUVIE. MAKE AN EXAMPLE OUT OF HER. LET WHITE PEOPLE KNOW THEY CAN’T JUST BLINK THEIR SHINY BLUE EYES AND GET AWAY WITH SHIT LIKE THIS.
And 70% don’t believe she should be prosecuted… Hmm okay I wonder how much that percentage would change if she was an 8-year old brown kid. Best believe thier ass would already be in Guantanamo Bay
Actions have consequences. The fact white kids can tweet bomb threats and then literally play the race card for sympathy expect to get off scot free while ever muslim i know watched what they say in public to such a degree it causes anxiety because one wrong move looking muslim or not white lands you in gitmo or regular jail or on watchlists
its not fair and i think i can live with one white kid being the example because clearly these kids have no moral centers and can’t make the executive decision to not post deliberate threats and expect nothing to happen.